“[Love] keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth”
1 Corinthians 13: 5d-6).
- Agape love keeps no record of wrongs. God puts our sins from us “as far as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12). Hebrews 10:16-18 describes God’s ability to forgive and forget.
Keeping score is illustrated in the following Our Daily Bread devotional (November 2, 2007):
A baby gift came to a young couple who were new parents. They were grateful for the present, so the mom picked up a thank-you card, wrote a nice note, and got It ready to send. Somehow it got buried in an avalanche of paperwork and was never mailed and the thank-you was forgotten. The gift-givers waited, but no acknowledgment came.
A rift developed as one family thought the thank-you had been given, while the other thought the lack of a thank-you was a…snub. This inadvertent failure to send a card left the gift-giver feeling slighted, unappreciated, and neglected.
Among the most important words we can speak are the two words, “Thank you.” And while it is vital to be grateful, there’s another side of thank you. If we bestow a gift on another, we should do so out of a motive that doesn’t expect anything, even a thank-you, in return.
Agape love keeps no record of wrongs—even if someone fails to thank us for our kindness. It gives with no expectations; it is never self-seeking—and no strings attached.
God does not keep score and neither should we! Forgiving those whom we feel have wronged us may be difficult because we tend to find it easier and more satisfying to hold onto our anger But as Christians, we no longer live according to the desires of the flesh.
The Holy Spirit desires to help us. When anyone wrongs us, as vessels of God’s love, we need to forgive and show love to that person. God’s agape love flowing through us can dispel any hurt done by another, but we must allow this to happen instead of holding on to pain.
- Agape love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Our lives will be significantly different if we put false ways far from us and follow the Lord’s commands (Psalm 119:25-32). The psalmist said, “I have chosen the way of truth; I have set my heart on Your laws” (v. 30). Often the pain of exposed truth hurts, but the joy of freedom soon follows (v. 32).
Teach me to love—this is my plea;
May all the Spirit’s graces shine through me;
Tear from my heart all hate, foolish pride;
Help me to live like Christ the crucified.—Peterson